Quoting Desmond Tutu in The Book of Joy, Avery, Ch. Sadness and Grief: The Hard Times Knit Us More Closely Together, p. 109-110, 2016

And so I think we shouldn’t think we are superwomen and supermen. To hold down emotions in a controlled environment, as it were, is not wise. I would say go ahead and even maybe shout out your sadness and pain. This can bring you back to normal. It’s locking them up and pretending that they are not there that causes them to fester and become a wound.

— Desmond Tutu in The Book of Joy, Avery, Ch. Sadness and Grief: The Hard Times Knit Us More Closely Together, p. 109-110, 2016

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