once you’ve chosen someone, both men and women need to take that “leap of faith” […] but I would add that this of course only works with a partner they can trust. There’s no sense wishing your girlfriend would relax and stop nagging and being neurotic, if you aren’t making her feel safe. If you aren’t trustworthy, or even kind. We have to feel safe to relax into the relationship. That’s when the self-centredness drops, and the guard comes down.

— Freya India in N.S. Lyons, The Self and the Soul: A Dialogue with Freya India , The Upheaval, 2024